In most countries, local residents
are as keen to get to know foreigners as foreigners
are to interact with them. Reach out with sincerity
and, even though you may face some resistance due
to cultural, attitudinal or language barriers, a
positive response can be evoked. With some luck,
someone may even invite you home so that you gain
an insight into the place through its people.
On a little frequented train route
in West Africa, I disembarked at a small station
where I was told that the train would be halting
for 20 minutes. I wandered around a bit outside
the station and returned in what I thought was good
time, only to find that the train had disappeared.
Frantic enquiry yielded the dismal information that
the next train was due three days later.
What followed was a unique adventure,
with me ending up staying with the station master.
He took me home, where I learned to drink the local
brew, eat cassava and speak a few words of Creole.
When I left the village three days later, there
was a farewell party of 26 people - comprising the
man's family and friends - to see me off.
I reciprocated the kind gesture
by sending gifts to the station master and his entire
family, although the entire process of dispatch,
receipt and acknowledgement took one and a half
year!
If you are not fortunate enough
to be invited to a local home, most cities have
a typical "melting pot". Look out for
popular clubs, restaurants and bars (not to be confused
with tourist hangouts) frequented by both locals
as well as foreigners resident in that country.
It is easy to meet people of diverse cultural backgrounds
at these places and strike up friendships along
the way. When attempting to speak a foreign language,
be sure to speak slowly and enunciate clearly.
Coping
with Unfamiliar Cultures
An individual's interaction with
those around him or her can make all the difference
in converting an unfamiliar environment into one
with a wealth of enjoyment and learning. Whether
you travel on business or vacation, it is your attitude
that influences how much you make a trip.
While culture shock can create a
feeling of isolation and homesickness, it is precisely
these differences between cultures that can and
should translate into a better understanding of
yourself and your roots. Everyone can take steps
to lessen this feeling of alienation that comes
from being away from home, thereby making every
trip more enjoyable and worthwhile.
If you are dealing with a foreign
language you have just learnt, remember that the
way you use your newly acquired vocabulary is as
important as the vocabulary itself. Learn which
are the most polite forms of usage and know how
to vary this usage according to the different types
of people you will be addressing.
While communicating, remember that
the body language is not universal but varies from
place to place. Even something as simple as eye
contact should be researched beforehand. Learn gestures
for greeting, parting and eating.
Every society has its own set of
rules with respect to behaviour toward different
age groups and genders. Be sensitive, too, toward
social and communal groups in general with regards
to family, clan, caste and religion. Find out about
the unwritten rules of gift-giving, buying and selling,
eating and drinking, and visiting homes.
Once you are mentally prepared,
be confident of your ability to mix with the locals
rather than sticking to your own kind out of fear
or apprehension. It will make your travel experience
a whole lot more enriching.
Unfamiliar
Practices
What is a gestured of appreciation
for one man may be downright rudeness for the next.
Here are some interesting practices from around
the world:
Slurping soup and noodles is a sign
of appreciation in Japan, but of bad manners in
the West.
When a meal is finished, Eskimos
smack their lips together to show how much they
enjoyed it.
When a guest leaves the home of
a Tibetan, the host sticks out his tongue as a farewell
gesture.
In certain villages in India, guests
burp after a meal to show their hosts how much they
enjoyed it.
In certain parts of Africa, respect
is conveyed by allowing your robe to slip.
In other parts of Africa, natives
greet each other by asking, "How do you sweat?"
Wedding
Invitations
Getting an invitation to a wedding
in a different culture affords much insight into
that culture.
In the East, extravagant celebrations
are the norm and are seen as a display of generosity,
status, wealth and approval. Symbols play an important
role, as in the choice of an auspicious day and
hour, in both the Indian and Chinese traditions.
Even in the West, various traditions
prevail. In Greece, the bride carries sugar in her
hand to ensure a sweet life. In Germany, the bride
carries salt and bread while the groom carries grain
for wealth and good fortune. In France, couples
drink a toast from a spherical cup which is then
passed on to the next generation. In the Czech Republic,
a tree is planted in the bridal yard as a symbol
that the bride will live as long as the tree. In
Korea, ducks form a part of the marriage ceremony
and procession; the symbolism comes from the belief
that the fowls mate for life.
Meeting
With Big Wigs
During
my travels, I have met many bigwigs, both as a result
of my professional interactions and in chance encounters.
They have included heads of corporations and public
and private institutions, as well as heads of state.
What I have learnt from these interactions is that,
while most of these people have achieved their power
and status as a result of their caliber and high-flying
efforts, all of them have normal human fears, foibles
and follies. Hence they relate well to ordinary
people. So do not be awed; meet and get to know
them if the opportunity arises. It can be a rewarding
experience.